把握调整的机遇 | 中英文
我们每个人都渴望自由，但不知道怎么获得真正的自由。平时没事的时候感觉自由，一旦在事相中遇到问题或障碍了，就感到不自由了。真正的自由是在解决问题、障碍的过程中获得的。
我们还是一起来了解、实践一件事情发生的四个过程——境、念、行、果。
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也就是说父母因为受到境的蒙蔽，发出消极的心念，推动了负面的行为，不但没能解决问题，反而造成了整个事情的恶化，最后促成了与期望相反的恶果。
其实事情发生的前三个过程都有调整的空间，其中最核心、最关键的是第二步——心念的调整与转变。
如果在此案例中，父母把对孩子的担心、焦虑转化成爱护和祝福，用这种正面的心念就能产生积极的引导方法。如果我们不去过度夸大、强化孩子玩iPad的不良习惯这个表相，而是客观、清晰、多角度、长久地观察，就会发现它只是孩子成长过程中一个阶段性的需要。
一方面，父母要警觉玩iPad上瘾可能给孩子带来的危害，比如说破坏健康、情绪失控、对父母不亲不尊、责任心差、生活能力弱，以及隔离、孤独感强等等；另一方面，也要了解为什么孩子会沉迷于此，孩子的哪些心理和现实需要被忽略了，才会让iPad占据自己的生活空间来弥补缺失。
父母对此状况有了全面、彻底地观察和了解，才有机会用善巧的方法引导孩子的认知，推动孩子主动抉择，调整不良习惯。很多时候，一个不良习惯难以改变，是因为我们对其认知不够清晰，似是而非，所以内心生不起真正改变的需要和抉择的勇气。
一旦了知每件事情的发生都有“境、念、行、果”这四个过程，那么处理事情的空间就拉大了。这样，我们就可以主动运用心念，在问题、障碍中游刃有余地获取选择的权力，找到解决之道，而不是心为境转，蒙蔽、受制于事相，不得自由。
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『生命之光 · 阳光早餐』
2017年12月 由Robin整理
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在跟随师父慈法法师学习佛法的过程中，常有抑制不住的感动与受益，我真诚地愿意对同参道友尽一份供养的心，尽可能地把师父随机开示的记录整理分享给大家。记录的内容主要是日常生活中出现的某一个角度的问题，希望我们能够举一反三、触类旁通地去观察、觉悟整个人生，依法唤起对本净本具美妙的缘起作用，使我们的人生变得美好与丰富多彩。
Seize the moment
to make a change
We all have a crave for freedom but no one knows how to obtain it. Our spirit seems free until we face some issues or obstacles. But actually, true freedom lies in the process of having our problems solved.
Let’s consider the four stages that constitute any event: the situation, the mind, the action or behaviour and the result.
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In other words, the phenomenon has obscured the parents’ view and their negative mind has encouraged a bad behaviour, the issue not only cannot be solved and rather makes the situation worse. The outcome turns out to be the total opposite of the original intention.
But there is place for flexibility to adjust the situation. And the core part is the way you set and adjust your mind.
The parents could shift from worries and anxiety to care and good wishes. This attitude would create a more positive way and more space to guide their children. The aim is to avoid strengthening the addictive way of Ipad use, and to do so, one should observe it peacefully and patiently from a different perspective. Doing so, we will understand that it is merely a temporary need of the children as they grow up.
In the meantime, parents should pay attention to any potential harm that will occur if the children are too much addicted, for example if their health is affected or whether they become bad at managing their moods or feel distant and disrespectful to parents or have a weak sense of responsibility or do not know when enough is enough, or else, feel isolated and lonely etc… On the other hand, parents need to find out why their kids sink into such an addiction and what are the psychological and factual needs that have been neglected to a point that their children use Ipad as a surrogate of the missing part of their life.
Only when parents have a thorough observation and understanding of the situation, will they have a chance to apply some skilful means to guide their children, to encourage them to make the right choice and to adjust their habit. Because most of the times when we find it hard to change a bad habit, the background reason is that we find the situation unclear and we are not fully aware of it so the inner desire for a change or the courage to make right decisions cannot arise.
Once we know about these four steps: the phenomenon, the mind, the behaviour and the outcome, there will be more flexibility to handle the matter. In case we are trapped in a problem or by an obstacle we could apply our mind freely, obtain the power to choose and find out a solution with ease instead of running after the phenomenon, being blinded by it and losing our free will.
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Editor's Note
While following our Master Cifa and learning Buddhism from him, very often I cannot help being moved by his targeted instructions and benefit a lot from them. Now, with a sincerely offering heart for you my fellow practitioners, I’d like to try as much as I can to share his instructions with all of you that I have recorded and sorted out. These series of records covered a number of problems from our daily life. Each problem is reflected from a specific perspective. I hope that we can learn by analog to observe and enlighten our whole life, so as, according to dharma, to arouse us to start using the inherent pure Buddha-nature as our wonderful arising condition, and make our life more beautiful, richer and more colorful.
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