如何把事情调整得当 | 中英文

生命之光

The Light of Life

阳光早餐

Sunshine Breakfast

如果有事情让你不舒服了，我们第一个应当看的，是自己做得不得当的是什么？哪个地方不得当了？ ——时间、地点、语言，都可能会有不得当的地方。 那这个地方是 忏悔 还是 调整 ？ 怎么样能去认知它？

首先，要把心理那个“不舒服”的点给击破。

先不要在意自己在别人面前表现得好或不好，先解决心中的这个“不舒服”。

我们怎么能把心中这个“不舒服”解决掉呢？ ——礼敬觉悟者，忏悔自己的业障最为简单。 觉悟者是我们圆满作为的展示者，他们做事得当、说话得当、思维得当，在礼敬这些觉悟者时，我们会看到自己的不得当，提示自己以后做得得当——思维得当、语言得当、作为得当。

现在做得不得当，实际是因为有不足的地方、观察不到的地方、不合适的地方，那就要忏悔。忏悔可以令我们的心松弛下来，松弛了以后，难受的点就找不到了，下次作为得当的点就容易找到了。

如果别人觉得不舒服，那怎么解决呢？

当别人觉得难以接受，被冲击了，不被尊重了，或者说有压力啊， 那我们就多祝福对方，多回向，多给予智慧，多给予慈悲，多给予真诚，让对方在心灵上完全接受真诚的、利益的、非伤害的祝福与供养。 心念清晰了，感觉到自他都平衡了，再来调整处理这个事情就容易了。

如果没有清晰简洁的方法作为参照，我们想要把什么都变成积极的东西会很难。凭着自己的性情啊、由着自己的“不舒服”啊，人容易颠覆一切。有了方法，就能认清自己能承受什么、适应什么，不能承受什么、不能适应什么，自己就会有个校正。

在跟随师父慈法法师学习佛法的过程中，常有抑制不住的感动与受益，我真诚地愿意对同参道友尽一份供养的心，尽可能地把师父随机开示的记录整理分享给大家。记录的内容主要是日常生活中出现的某一个角度的问题，希望我们能够举一反三、触类旁通地去观察、觉悟整个人生，依法唤起对本净本具美妙的缘起作用，使我们的人生变得美好与丰富多彩。

How to adjust things

properly?

When we feel uncomfortable with something, we should first look for what we may have done wrong and how so, wrong timing, wrong place or wrong words…How do we deal with these wrongdoings, confess or make an adjustment to them ? How do we perceive these misconducts?

Let’s try to solve this displeasure in our mind first.

Let’s discard people’s judgment about us, no matter good or bad.

The simplest way is to pay homage to the enlightened ones and confess our wrongdoings. The enlightened ones are our models of perfection. They appropriately act, speak and think all the time. Therefore, while paying homage to them, recognizing them as a mirror, we can easily see our misconducts. With this understanding, we come to realize that from now on, we should appropriately act, speak and think, just like them.

For our current wrongdoings, we should repent and thereby ease our mind. When there is no more displeased point in our mind，it’s easier for us now to find where we can attain appropriate behavior.

What shall we do if other people feel upset because of our misconducts?

They may feel challenged, disrespected, over pressured, or they may feel reluctant to accept something from us. Let us bless them and dedicate our fortune, wisdom, compassion and sincerity to them, so that they completely accept our sincere, beneficial and harmless blessing and offer. Thus with a clear direction in our minds and feeling no more mutual hostility, it is easy for us to handle the issue.

Without such a clear and simple way as a guide, it’s difficult for us to turn negative things into positive ones, because our temper and discontent may subvert everything. With a proper method, we can clearly understand what we can undertake and adapt to, and what we cannot, and therefore we can make the necessary adjustments.

Editor's Note

While following our Master Cifa and learning Buddhism from him, very often I cannot help being moved by his targeted instructions and benefit a lot from them. Now, with a sincerely offering heart for you my fellow practitioners, I’d like to try as much as I can to share his instructions with all of you that I have recorded and sorted out. These series of records covered a number of problems from our daily life. Each problem is reflected from a specific perspective. I hope that we can learn by analog to observe and enlighten our whole life, so as, according to dharma, to arouse us to start using the inherent pure Buddha-nature as our wonderful arising condition, and make our life more beautiful, richer and more colorful.

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