一点一滴地调整习气 | 中英文

知道一件事情该如何处理，如有不当就能马上调整，能做到这样的人十分稀少。大多数人在我执的驱使下，以习惯性作为去应对外境，很难做到如实、灵活地反应与调整。

习气反复和滞留的状态十分普遍，在我们每个人身上都有显现。我们若以包容心和安忍心，一点一点地去处理习气对我们的埋没和蒙蔽，这会是解决烦恼的良好开端。

生命应充满允许，就是我们应许可、接纳自己习气的反复。这个允许、理解与包容是特别重要的。

为什么这个地方要反复强调呢？

因为我们心理习惯的特质就是十分容易打结。很多时候我们对自己不包容，对别人就更谈不上包容。不许可，就会排斥，就会责怪自己、责怪他人，感觉自己这个毛病怎么老改不掉呢？一责怪、排斥，就会使这个毛病固化下来。随着这毛病老犯，它就变成了一个解不掉的扣。很多人明知道自己的毛病不易改掉，却越想改它，反而这个东西就越深沉、越顽固。所以，许可一切、理解万岁，是把死结松开的重要方法。

心结之树

我们的自责以及对他人的责怪，往往是埋在内心深处、不轻易表现出来的，很多时候这个心结会打得很大。由于对自身习气的顽固性没有清晰的认识、缺乏慈悲，我们就会苛责他人、不许他人有习气的表达。如果能对自己多一点包容，允许自己在业习中折腾一下，自然有能力理解、体谅他人。

我们经常会追求完美，因为对自他期待过高而受苦。做一个平平实实的人，保持一个简简单单的状态，不轻视自己，不责怪他人，就会安稳下来。

不轻视、不责怪，是在现实生活中学习调整习气的重大缘起，它使我们在面对习气时，保持了平和、宽松的心态。允许自他随顺因缘来逐步改变，这样我们的生活会在一点一滴的调整中，变得轻松明快、从容自在。

来自慈法法师的

『生命之光 · 阳光早餐』

2018年1月由Robin整理

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强制改变业习之苦

疾病：正面的作用

生活中的悲智应用

Robin编后语

在跟随师父慈法法师学习佛法的过程中，常有抑制不住的感动与受益，我真诚地愿意对同参道友尽一份供养的心，尽可能地把师父随机开示的记录整理分享给大家。记录的内容主要是日常生活中出现的某一个角度的问题，希望我们能够举一反三、触类旁通地去观察、觉悟整个人生，依法唤起对本净本具美妙的缘起作用，使我们的人生变得美好与丰富多彩。

更正说明

本平台“阳光早餐”栏目上期文章《强制改变业习之苦》中有两处做以下更正：

1、我们应该学习的是觉悟者的方法——直接从表相来透视本质，了知万事万物（的本质）是无有实质的，是缘生缘灭的，是不可得的。这是一个很重要也很调柔的方法。

说明：原文去掉括号中“的本质”三字。

2. 我们不必过多地在习气的业相上着力，而应去关注它的本质，了解它（本质）是虚幻、无常的，是即显即解脱的。

说明：原文去掉括号中“本质”二字

特此更正。

感恩读友指正。欢迎大家继续关注本栏目成长。南无阿弥陀佛。

菩提眼生命之光编辑组

2018年1月28日

Change our habits: every bit counts

Rare are those who have a good sense of how to do things right and keep adjusting till they do it right. Driven by ego, most of us respond to external environment in their habitual ways rather than adapt themselves to the situation.

Repeating and lingering habits are not at all unfamiliar to any of us. Habits drown and blind us. They have to be dealt with tolerance and inclusiveness, as the first great step towards saving us from troubles.

Life is meant to allow all possibilities and so we must allow and accept the recurrence of our own habits. This very act of allowing, understanding and tolerating carries great importance and deserves constant care. Why?

Because we love to get mentally confused! How can we tolerate others if we are not tolerant towards ourselves. Rejecting comes from forbidding and so does blaming, either on ourselves or on others. We hate the fact that we cannot get rid of our bad habits but we fail to realize that these rejections and blame, in turn, fortify the very habit we strive to change. This haunting habit will thus turn into a knot that is almost impossible to release. Many of us know that bad habits are hard to change so we tell ourselves to work harder on it. But the harder we work on changing those habits, the more persistent they tend to become. Therefore, allowing everything and understanding all is the key to untying the tighening knot of our mind.

Knot In Mind

The blame we lay on ourselves and others is not readily visible because we tend to keep it deep in our mind. The mind knot thus keeps tightening up. Without compassion or clear knowledge of the persisting nature of our habits, we become judgmental on others and find it hard to allow other people’s habits to surface. Let’s grant ourselves a bit more tolerance, allow ourselves to linger just a little bit in our habits, and we will develop a capacity to understand and empathize with other people.

Trapped by the desire to achieve perfection, we expect too much from ourselves and others, which brings us sufferings. Go and find peace in being plain, staying simple, and refraining from thinking little of yourself or blaming others.

This very act of refraining, which makes us gain a peaceful and relaxing mind when habits occur, this is the critical cause we need to work on in daily life. Let’s allow ourselves and others to accommodate to causes and conditions. We will then find in life more ease, pleasure and peace with every bit of change along the way.

The Light of Life

Sunshine Breakfast

Editor's Note

While following our Master Cifa and learning Buddhism from him, very often I cannot help being moved by his targeted instructions and benefit a lot from them. Now, with a sincerely offering heart for you my fellow practitioners, I’d like to try as much as I can to share his instructions with all of you that I have recorded and sorted out. These series of records covered a number of problems from our daily life. Each problem is reflected from a specific perspective. I hope that we can learn by analog to observe and enlighten our whole life, so as, according to dharma, to arouse us to start using the inherent pure Buddha-nature as our wonderful arising condition, and make our life more beautiful, richer and more colorful.

from Robin

Correction Statement

We hereby to correct, that in the article “The harmfulness of changing people's habits” published last time in the column of The Light of Life ~ Sunshine Breakfast on this platform, there are two errors to be adjusted.

1. In the third paragraph, the sentence of “understanding that the innate essence of everything is not substantial” should be “understanding that everything is not substantial ”.

2. In the sixth paragraph, the sentence of “Indeed, it is unnecessary for us to spend too much of our energy on our habit itself, rather we need to focus on its essence and enlighten ourselves by the fact that its nature is beyond existence and is impermanent” should be “Indeed, it is unnecessary for us to spend too much of our energy on our habit itself, rather we need to focus on its essence and enlighten ourselves by the fact that our habit is beyond existence and is impermanent”.

Thanks to the reader for pointing out the mistakes. Welcome to continue to pay attention to the growth of this column. Namo Amitabha!

The Light of Life editing group in Putiyan

Jan. 28th, 2018